How To Communicate More Effectively (+ word-for-word scripts included)

I know this news may shock you, but I haven’t always been the easiest guy to get along with *cue gasp from audience*. Like many people, I too used to be the guy who was too honest with people. I thought my honest and blunt communication style was harmless, even helpful at times. 

But people REALLY didn’t like it. 

I remember it like it was yesterday. Someone would tell me how they just got their 5th overdraft fee from their bank, and look to me to make a statement of empathy, only to be shocked by hearing me say, “well, maybe you should take more responsibility for your financial life”. 

Can you believe I was surprised that people were offended by that? 

Here’s why my words weren’t received well–because I was being an asshole. Only people who have zero social acuity think you either have to be 100% honest or lie in a conversation.

That’s what the psychology field calls an extreme reach barrier–the assumption that if you want to do something, you have to go to the COMPLETE EXTREME to do it at all.

Not offending people during conversation isn’t as simple as lying or being honest. But rather, you need to approach every conversation with a little more finesse. 

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